I’ve been writing about Parental Alienation Syndrome – something that goes hand in hand with international children abductions – from the beginning. When my children were taken to Poland in 1998 for Christmas Holidays, I had had no idea that such a devious thing could exist. A mental abuse inflicted by the mother of her own child in order to “win” with me was impossible to understand. She, a teacher, used as a weapon in her war with me, her 2 and 3-year-old own children.
There are plenty of books written on the subject, but the were no testimonials available for others to see. Thank God for Youtube and the democratization of the media. No mainstream media, usually with a political agenda, is needed to present a story of abuse. Unfortunately, as the statistics show, the abuse of Parental Alienation Syndrome comes mainly from mothers. Persons that are associated only with love in everybody’s life. There are many examples that this stereotype is far from the truth.
The story of Ryan Thomas is not about international abduction, but the mental abuse of the guy is VERY real and close to experiences that I and my both abducted children experienced. It took Ryan over three decades to come to the terms, and rebuild his relationship with his dad. My Amelia and Daniel, even though they are already in college age, are still not willing to face the truth, and begin to ask basic questions about their story. They still prefer ignorance from taking the responsibility for their own lives. Continue reading “Testimonial of a grown up child affected by abuse of PAS- the story of Ryan Thomas”
As Eileen Clark finally had to face the music in US, the federal prosecutors decided to go easy on parental abductor. They let her plea guilty and …. sent her home, as if nothing of last 20 years actions had no meaning. Disgusting.
A piece of good news that happened 3 months ago, that I missed – an article from July of this year, about a mother who finally is facing justice in America for the act of parental abduction. It is another followup post to a story that I have already written about in the past.
Finally, Eileen Clark, the kidnapper of her own children, who was on the run for 20 was extradited to the US and is facing the musing in American Court in Albuquerque, where she faced federal charges related to international child abduction. She was handed over to US marshals at the Heathrow Airport on July 3rd and immediately flowed to the US for prosecution.
It is very difficult to argue with people about parental abductions, who have never experience this crime, either by being directed affected by them or witnessing other people going through the ordeal. It is even more difficult to actually hear the real victims of times of these abductions – the children themselves. There are way too many people in Poland (and Germany, and Sweden, and Switzerland…) who dismiss the severity of parental abductions. Their standard “don’t worry, your children will come back to you when they turn 18,20” is just unbelievably ignorant. This is the main reason I am still trying to change the culture of tolerance for this evident child abuse in Poland. Yes, “Left-behind” parents (don’t you love this “nice” description of victimized parents?) are hurting, and most of the time, hurting very much, but the real crime is being done to the children themselves.
A recent abduction to Poland by a mother of two girls refreshed the time I had to go through the same questions, feelings, desperation. First days, weeks, months of nightmares, when I realized that my Amelia and Daniel could never come back to their home in California. I read a lot of books, blogs, articles on the subject of parental abduction, and very closely related Parental Alliteration Syndrome. The weapon of choice, used by the parent-kidnappers to wipe the other ones from child’s life, and to excuse his/her actions in the eyes of the child. However, no matter how many books one can read, they will NEVER accurately describe the horror, which accompanies a little girl or boy, Continue reading “Abducted children tell what they feel about being kidnapped;something every judge, parent, grandparents, prosecutor and politician should know.”
The story of Joshua Izzard is typical: as he traveled to Rome, his Russian wife decided to “return” to her homeland. Besides two suitcases, she took their daughter, the “burgeoning chip” in the war with her husband.
The story of Joshua Izzard is very typical: as he traveled to Rome, his Russian wife decided to “return” to her homeland. Besides two suitcases, she took their daughter, the “burgeoning chip” in the war with her husband.
Joshua’s story is not different of thousands of others. Among other examples of unresolved cases of parental abductions, the article mentions our “own” Gerardo Serrano. His son Mycah, was abducted to Poland by the mother of the boy 13 years ago. Yes, Mycah is almost adult (he is 17), and to this day blames his father for …. the abduction. Mycah, is very angry at his father, and does not believe in parental abduction syndrome.